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Method 1: Notice How the Person Acts
1. See if the person can act naturally around you. Part of being love means being completely open to the other person. If you find yourself seeing a whole different side that the person doesn’t show the public, then that may be love. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you’re alone, then s/he is really opening up to you and loves you.
- If the person shares his or her deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that is love.
- If the person is comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if you see every side of him or her.
2. Gauge if the person is happy to be around you. This should be true even during a bad day. If your loved one has had a very bad day but lights up when s/he sees you, then that’s a sign of love. If s/he is in love with you, then the sight of you or the sound of your voice is guaranteed to make him or her feel better — if only a little bit.
- The next time s/he is grumpy or has a bad day, see how s/he reacts in your presence.
3. Notice if the person gives you googly eyes. Though this may be silly, check out your loved one’s face the next time you see him or her. Does s/he look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as “googly-eyed”? You will know it when you see it. You won’t get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table.
- You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression.
4. See if the person is giddy around you. Love makes people feel giddy, weightless, and like laughing for no reason at all. If you see the person acting this way in your presence, then this may be love. Does your loved one seem hyper, excited, and on the verge of laughing for almost no reason at all whenever s/he is around you? If so, then this may be love.
- If you’ve said something barely funny and the person cracks up, then s/he may be lovesick.
- If the person shows nervous energy or fidgets around a lot around you, then s/he may just be excited by your presence.
5. Ask yourself if the person is upset when you are. If you are suffering unbelievable emotional pain or are just bummed because you have the flu, then this should rub off on the person who loves you. If s/he truly loves you, then s/he’ll absorb some of your negative emotions and will be very upset because s/he’ll want you to feel better as soon as you can.
- Though s/he doesn’t have to be as upset as you are, the person should clearly be affected by your mood because all s/he wants is for you to be happy.
Method2: Notice What The Person Says
1. Notice if the person talks positively about your future together.
- True commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is a good chance s/he truly loves you.
- If the person talks about what your kids will look like, where you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then s/he may really love you.
2. See if the person gives you meaningful compliments. There’s a difference between saying, “I like your new haircut” and “You have the ability to make me feel better no matter what.” If the person gives you compliments that show that s/he really appreciates the important aspects of your character and personality, then there’s a good chance s/he really loves you.
- Your loved one doesn’t have to shower you with compliments all the time — it’s the quality, not the quantity, that makes a difference.
3 . Determine if the person means every “I love you.“ Remember that there is a big difference between “Love ya!” and “I love you.” If your special someone really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it’s likely that s/he really means it.
- If the person undeniably loves you, then s/he will say it for no reason at all, not just because s/he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say.
4. See if the person really opens up to you. If your loved one really loves you, then they will really open up to you and tell you what they are thinking, feeling, fearing, and longing for. If the person really opens up about their childhood, greatest regrets, most painful moments, or most romantic dreams for the future, then it’s likely that they like you because the person is so comfortable telling you about almost everything.
- If the person tells you, “I’ve never told anyone this before…” then there’s a good chance that s/he really loves and trusts you.
5. Expect to be missed when apart. If you and your loved one are apart, but s/he still texts you, calls you, or emails you to let you know how much s/he misses you, then it means s/he can’t imagine his or her life without you. If you go on a three-week vacation and don’t hear a word from him or her, then it may not be love.
- S/he doesn’t have to call you constantly to let you know if s/he misses you.
6. Hope to have your mistakes corrected.
- If the person never argues with you or never criticizes you, then you should be on the look out. Make sure that the person truly loves you instead of an ideal version of who you are.
7 .See if the person truly values your opinion. If the person truly loves you, then s/he’ll care about what you think — whether it’s about his or her new pair of shoes or the political situation in your country. If s/he really loves you, s/he will ask for your advice and opinions, whether it’s on big or small matters. S/he may feel self-conscious about asking for your opinion, but s/he’ll do it because s/he loves you.
- S/he doesn’t have to ask for your opinion on everything — only the things that really matter.