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If there’s one thing that almost every guy is an expert at, it’s m’asturbation. After years of extensive, hands-on experience, you think you know everything there is to know. But according to the experts, maybe you don’t. Here are some that may surprise you.
1. M’asturbation doesn’t have the health benefits that s’ex does.
Study after study shows that inter’course has all sorts of benefits for men — for your blood pressure, heart and prostate health, pain, and more. You’d think that m’asturbation would, too. But it doesn’t.
Why would it make a difference whether you e’jaculate during s’ex or on your own? No one’s sure. But your body seems to respond differently. Even the makeup of s’emen is different if you m’asturbate instead of having s’ex.
Still, does it really matter? Have you honestly been m’asturbating all these years only because you wanted to boost your prostate health? Didn’t think so.
2. M’asturbation is not risk-free.
Sure, it’s low-risk. It’s the safest form of s’ex possible. No one ever caught an STD from himself or made himself pregnant. But like other low-risk activities (chewing, walking), it still has some risks.
Frequent or rough m’asturbation can cause minor skin irritation. Forcefully bending an e’rect p’enis can rupture the chambers that fill with blood, a rare but gruesome condition called pen!le fracture.
Köhler has seen guys with it after vigorous m’asturbation. “Afterward, the p’enis looks like an eggplant,” he says. “It’s purple and swollen.” Most men need surgery to repair it.
3. There’s no “normal” amount of m’asturbation.
Guys can get hung up on whether they m’asturbate too much. But it’s not how many times you m’asturbate in a week (or day) that really matters, says Logan Levkoff, PhD, a s’exologist and s’ex educator. It’s how it fits into your life.
If you m’asturbate many times a day and have a healthy, satisfying life, good for you. But if you m’asturbate many times a day and you’re missing work or giving up on s’ex with your partner because of it, consider seeing a s’ex therapist.
Even then, there’s nothing specific about m’asturbation that’s the problem. Compulsive m’asturbation is like any behavior that disrupts your life — whether it’s compulsively playing poker or buying Beanie Babies on eBay.
4. M’asturbating doesn’t reflect on your relationship.
Levkoff says the most damaging myth about male m’asturbation is that it’s a sign something is wrong in your relationship.
The fact is that most guys m’asturbate. They m’asturbate if they’re single, in a bad relationship, or in a great relationship. It’s just something they do that has nothing to do with their partners.
M’asturbation isn’t only about s’ex Levkoff says. For many, it’s a routine way of relieving stress, clearing your head before work, or going to sleep.
5. M’asturbation is almost certainly good for your s’ex life.
Are there exceptions? Some guys do get so hooked on a certain amount of pressure during m’asturbation or the stimulation of p’orn that they can’t perform with a partner, says Ian Kerner, PhD, a s’ex therapist and author of She Comes First.
Still, Kerner says those guys are the exception. “For the vast majority of men, m’asturbation is a healthy thing,” he says. “I’m usually more concerned about a guy who’s stopped m’asturbating — which can be a sign of anxiety or health problems — than a guy who’s doing it regularly.”