This guy is great. He texts to ask about how that big meeting at work went because he’s genuinely interested. He’ll come over at 11 pm and watch Netflix with you in your pajamas without ever trying to make it about something more. It’s easy to see how this fun loving good listener would make a great partner, but the bait is on the line and he just doesn’t seem to be biting. How do you proceed?
Verdict: Honesty is the best policy. If you tell your friend you’re interested and he reciprocates, great! If not, it’s best to move on. Friends are great people to have in your life. Some try to argue that a man and woman can’t simply be friends, but that’s quite clearly untrue. There are a number of reasons a guy friend might not want to change the relationship you two share, and just as you wouldn’t want to be forced to explain your ‘no’ answer, neither should he.
Friends With Benefits
Verdict: If you’re fine with casual dating and sex, there’s nothing wrong with a friend with benefits. However, expecting a commitment out of an arrangement specifically based on a lack of obligation can be a fool’s errand. It can happen, but it’s rare, and you’re better off pursuing someone who wants the same level of emotional intimacy that you crave.
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